My Sweet Angel

Verse....  "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."  Phillipians 4:13 NKJV




Thought for today....  Its not the size of your faith that matters; its the size of the God you believe in that makes all the difference.  A little faith in a big God gets good results. (Life's Healing Choices)




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My Sweet Angel


By Michelle L



To my little sweet angel way up above

I send you lots and lots of love

God visited us a little while ago

He took you away and left me so



With a broken heart I now live

And for that I just cannot forgive

So empty inside yet so full of pain

What on earth was he expecting to gain?



I know I shouldn't be angry with the man above

And I'll try not to be for you my love

I'm sure he's taking good care of you

With his Angels in heaven there too



Oh it hurts so much to know you are gone

I think of you all day long

I know that you are in spirit somewhere

And you'll continue to grow with care



I want you back but I know it cant be

So for now only in my dreams I shall see

Your baby face and how beautiful you truely are

Your spirit is close yet feels so far



My little sweet angel way up above

You have a place in my heart so full of love

I really do wish you were still here

But I can try rest if I know you are near



Dealing with loss....  I found this on http://www.pregnancy.info/

People say awful things.


Most people don't really know what to say, so they make something up on the spot or repeat old-fashioned sayings that don't really apply. I think that they feel the need to say something, and they want somehow to make it all better. While many of the stupid things that people will say to you upon learning you have lost a baby seem thoughtless and even cruel, do realize that it is difficult to find the right thing to say to you. You will probably be upset no matter what they say. This is okay, you can always just walk away from the conversation.

For those of you who want to retort, here are some replies to the most common comments you will hear.

Comment: "This was probably a blessing in disguise."

Reply: "I don't see it that way; this is actually very hard for me."

Comment: "At least you weren't farther along."

Reply: "I think a baby is a baby no matter how big he or she is."

Comment: "Now you have an angel in heaven."

Reply: "Yes, but I'm sure I'd rather have a baby here."

Comment: "This was God's will."

Reply: "I don't think I or anyone really knows what God's will is exactly."

Comment: "Be glad you didn't get attached to it."

Reply: "Actually, we were quite attached to our little baby."

Comment: "Stop worrying. My cousin had four miscarriages and she had a baby just fine."

Reply: "I am very sorry for your cousin. I know how hard those four miscarriages must have been."

Comment: "If you stop thinking about it, you'll feel better."

Reply: "Actually, thinking about the baby is important to me."

Comment: "You can always have another one."

Reply: "Yes, but I still lost this one, and one child can never replace another."

Sometimes the best way to handle difficult people is to simply avoid them until you are up to it. If the problem is a mother-in-law (and it often is), ask your husband to handle her calls and keep yourself busy in the kitchen or elsewhere when she visits. Don't take her or anyone else's comments as being critical of you. Even when they seem that way; they are rarely meant to be.


Mean and Petty People

We all know they are out there. People who are thoughtless, crude, or mean. Who knows why they are like they are. Maybe life was too harsh for them. Maybe they are socially inept. But they have the power to really really upset you.

It's best to avoid these people, but sometimes their meanness seeps into your life, and sometimes they are your family. Here are some examples of terrible, horrible things people have said to women on the bulletin boards. Maybe the people you know will seem like angels in comparison.

From a woman who had just had a baby to a woman who had just lost one: "Thank God I didn't follow your pregnancy advice!" (Did she think this was a joke?)

From a mother-in-law when both her daughter and the daughter-in-law were pregnant and the daughter-in-law lost her baby: "Well at least my daughter knows how to take care of herself and give me a grandchild."

From a "friend" after hearing about the loss of a baby during a vacation: "I told you not to go on that plane trip. Everyone knows it causes miscarriage." (It does not.)

From another friend, who was also pregnant. "God, I hope it's not catching."

From a mother to her daughter. "You shouldn't have had a baby with that creep anyway. Thank God it died."