Verse.... "Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows." Isaiah 53:4
Thought for today... The peace of God passes all understanding. (Leslie Williams)
Song...
Poem...
I would like to dedicate this poem to beautiful Sophia & Natalie. Sophia's mother, a friend of mine, wrote this. I hold no rights to this poem. It was written and copyrighted by Natalie. Do not use this without permission from the author.
This Halloween, My Child is an Angel
"No tricks, no treats this year
to brighten up her smile
No searches for tiny costumes
down crowded clothing aisles
We won't show up knocking
on our neighbor's door
Or join the goblins and ghouls
collecting candy store-to-store
I did not get to choose
what my child would be this year
For you see, she's gone to heaven
and the future seems so unclear.
But I imagine she has a tiny halo
floating right above her head
And I swear she's watching over us,
and this is what she said:
"I may not get to join you
on this chilly Halloween night,
But I'm a tiny Angel now
and I'm never out of sight.
You can see me in the changing leaves
that fall from up above,
And when the wind whistles by your ear,
I'm whispering my love."
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Verse.... "He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:29-31 NIV
Thought for today.... I must feel worse before I feel better. I hve to feel grief before we can experience joy. We must feel weak in order to feel God's power. (from Life's healing choices sermon)
Song/video.... Tissue warning "A Baby's Prayer"
Poem...
Thought for today.... I must feel worse before I feel better. I hve to feel grief before we can experience joy. We must feel weak in order to feel God's power. (from Life's healing choices sermon)
Song/video.... Tissue warning "A Baby's Prayer"
Poem...
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
A Plot of weeds
Verse... "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test my thoughts. Point out anything you find in me that makes you sad." Psalm 139:23&24 NLB
Thought for today... The only way to get God's power is to surrender to him and let him fill you with his Spirit.
Song/video....
Poem...
This poem was given to me by a friend after I lost Grace at 18 wks. It spoke volumes to me. I feel like God has asked me to work in the "plot of weeds" called helping women who have had m/c. I feel that he has used me to offer support to those women who are hurting the most after a loss. But it is certainly a "plot of weeds" I never wanted to work in.
A Plot of Weeds
As I stood and admired God’s wonderful world as a garden of beautiful plots I said, Father, where would you have me to work? Just assign me some nice spot.
Then he turned my attention to a corner of weeds and, he said “you can tend that for me.” And I said “Oh no, Lord, not that overgrown acre. That’s nothing but briars and weeds. In a rose garden maybe or a lilac lagoon I will labor till life’s race is run. But don’t put me out in some lowly ravine where nobody can see what I’ve done.”
“Why people would laugh Lord, they’ll call me a fool. They’ll say this work cant be of you. I’d much rather work in a vineyard with folks who’ll appreciate all that I do. Lord. I’d work and I’d toll if I had fertile soil. I would plow, I would plant and I’d seed. For I do want to serve in the garden of life, but, Lord, not in an old plot of weeds.”
Then I lifted my eyes to the eyes of my Lord, and the love and compassion was plain. With infinite tenderness, he took me aside. And gently to me he explained, “Child, not all of my garden is level and smooth. Many pieces are rugged and rough. And some must be willing to work without praise and to serve where the going is tough. And I have chosen you for this one special task. And its not just an old plot of weeds; for my people are there in oppression and fear and your efforts there can help fill their needs.”
He said “aren’t you willing to suffer a little bit for me after I suffered so much for you? Would you be so ungrateful that you would recall the work that I’ve asked you to do?” Then he said, “Little One, get your hoe and your plow and go on to your garden of weeds. Don’t worry about people and what they might say. Are you working for them or for me?”
So I made up my mind I would give it my best for I knew when the work had begun; that God would send others to lighten the load and together we would get the job done. And when the last harvest is finally in, if we’ve worked in the sunshine and rain together we’ll stand at the end of the way and we’ll see what our labor gained.
No, a garden of weeds full of thistles and thorns would hardly be anyone’s choice. But the work of the Lord without hope for reward brings contentment and cause to rejoice. So if you are hoeing and plowing today where the ground seems unyielding and bare; Child of God, don’t look back but just keep pushing on if you know he has stationed you there.
And here is the way you can know, day by day, that you’re in the right place when you spot it; you may grow quite weary and tired in God’s way, but you never will grow tired OF it.
By: Mildred Ramsey
Thought for today... The only way to get God's power is to surrender to him and let him fill you with his Spirit.
Song/video....
Poem...
This poem was given to me by a friend after I lost Grace at 18 wks. It spoke volumes to me. I feel like God has asked me to work in the "plot of weeds" called helping women who have had m/c. I feel that he has used me to offer support to those women who are hurting the most after a loss. But it is certainly a "plot of weeds" I never wanted to work in.
A Plot of Weeds
As I stood and admired God’s wonderful world as a garden of beautiful plots I said, Father, where would you have me to work? Just assign me some nice spot.
Then he turned my attention to a corner of weeds and, he said “you can tend that for me.” And I said “Oh no, Lord, not that overgrown acre. That’s nothing but briars and weeds. In a rose garden maybe or a lilac lagoon I will labor till life’s race is run. But don’t put me out in some lowly ravine where nobody can see what I’ve done.”
“Why people would laugh Lord, they’ll call me a fool. They’ll say this work cant be of you. I’d much rather work in a vineyard with folks who’ll appreciate all that I do. Lord. I’d work and I’d toll if I had fertile soil. I would plow, I would plant and I’d seed. For I do want to serve in the garden of life, but, Lord, not in an old plot of weeds.”
Then I lifted my eyes to the eyes of my Lord, and the love and compassion was plain. With infinite tenderness, he took me aside. And gently to me he explained, “Child, not all of my garden is level and smooth. Many pieces are rugged and rough. And some must be willing to work without praise and to serve where the going is tough. And I have chosen you for this one special task. And its not just an old plot of weeds; for my people are there in oppression and fear and your efforts there can help fill their needs.”
He said “aren’t you willing to suffer a little bit for me after I suffered so much for you? Would you be so ungrateful that you would recall the work that I’ve asked you to do?” Then he said, “Little One, get your hoe and your plow and go on to your garden of weeds. Don’t worry about people and what they might say. Are you working for them or for me?”
So I made up my mind I would give it my best for I knew when the work had begun; that God would send others to lighten the load and together we would get the job done. And when the last harvest is finally in, if we’ve worked in the sunshine and rain together we’ll stand at the end of the way and we’ll see what our labor gained.
No, a garden of weeds full of thistles and thorns would hardly be anyone’s choice. But the work of the Lord without hope for reward brings contentment and cause to rejoice. So if you are hoeing and plowing today where the ground seems unyielding and bare; Child of God, don’t look back but just keep pushing on if you know he has stationed you there.
And here is the way you can know, day by day, that you’re in the right place when you spot it; you may grow quite weary and tired in God’s way, but you never will grow tired OF it.
By: Mildred Ramsey
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
They say there is a reason
Verse... "I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted. You asked "Who is this that obscures my counsel without knowledge?" Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know. Job 42:2&3
Thought for today.... When life knocks you down to your knees...just remember....you are in the perfect position to pray!
Song/video...
Poem...
They Say There is a Reason
They say there is a reason,
They say that time will heal,
But neither time nor reason,
Will change the way I feel,
For no-one knows the heartache,
That lies behind our smiles,
No-one knows how many times,
We have broken down and cried,
We want to tell you something,
So there won't be any doubt,
You're so wonderful to think of,
But so hard to be without.
Author Unknown
Thought for today.... When life knocks you down to your knees...just remember....you are in the perfect position to pray!
Song/video...
Poem...
They Say There is a Reason
They say there is a reason,
They say that time will heal,
But neither time nor reason,
Will change the way I feel,
For no-one knows the heartache,
That lies behind our smiles,
No-one knows how many times,
We have broken down and cried,
We want to tell you something,
So there won't be any doubt,
You're so wonderful to think of,
But so hard to be without.
Author Unknown
Monday, October 26, 2009
What makes a mother
Verse.... "I will never leave you; I will never abandon you." Hebrews 13:5 (GNB)
Thought for today.... You cant heal a wound until you expose it and clean it out. Dont just cover it up.. Expose your wound to God and let him heal it!
Song/video....
Poem...
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...
'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come strait here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"
Coping with Grief..... Found on http://www.pregnancyloss.info/
Many people feel they've lost all faith in God.
It is hard to imagine a loving, compassionate God who would let things like this happen. What did an unborn baby ever do to deserve this? What have you done?
You may feel your faith is being tested right now, and it is completely understandable that you will doubt in God. Regardless of your religion, "Why, God?" is a universal question when we face suffering. In many ways, you will have to think your way through your conflicting feelings about a God that you love and believe in, but you feel has failed you. Your clergy, pastor, preacher, rabbi, or priest may be able to help.
I thought of it this way: God is here for us. He will carry us through our troubles if we let Him, but He does not guarantee that life will go as we wish. Death and suffering are part of our life, and our faith is there to help us through it, not prevent it. The last thing I wanted to do in my hour of need was to cut myself off from the only person who would not say something thoughtless or let me down--God.
Thoughts for Christians
We should always remember that earth is not heaven. Heaven is our reward for going through trials, pain, and suffering of this earth and remaining faithful Christians. God does not always answer our prayers in exactly the way we want, but He is there, listening, and caring.
Many words from the Bible are comforting for moms going through miscarriage. Here are a few:
About your baby:
Isaiah 49:1 - The LORD called me from the womb, from the body of my mother he named my name.
Jeremiah 1:5 - Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.
About you:
Isaiah 41:10 - So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Mark 11:24 - Therefore I say to you whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.
Jeremiah 33:6 - Behold, I will bring you health and cure, and I will cure you, and will reveal unto you the abundance of peace and truth.
Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Jeremiah 29:11 I know the plans I have for you says the LORD…to give you a future and a Hope.
Thought for today.... You cant heal a wound until you expose it and clean it out. Dont just cover it up.. Expose your wound to God and let him heal it!
Song/video....
Poem...
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...
'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come strait here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"
Coping with Grief..... Found on http://www.pregnancyloss.info/
Many people feel they've lost all faith in God.
It is hard to imagine a loving, compassionate God who would let things like this happen. What did an unborn baby ever do to deserve this? What have you done?
You may feel your faith is being tested right now, and it is completely understandable that you will doubt in God. Regardless of your religion, "Why, God?" is a universal question when we face suffering. In many ways, you will have to think your way through your conflicting feelings about a God that you love and believe in, but you feel has failed you. Your clergy, pastor, preacher, rabbi, or priest may be able to help.
I thought of it this way: God is here for us. He will carry us through our troubles if we let Him, but He does not guarantee that life will go as we wish. Death and suffering are part of our life, and our faith is there to help us through it, not prevent it. The last thing I wanted to do in my hour of need was to cut myself off from the only person who would not say something thoughtless or let me down--God.
Thoughts for Christians
We should always remember that earth is not heaven. Heaven is our reward for going through trials, pain, and suffering of this earth and remaining faithful Christians. God does not always answer our prayers in exactly the way we want, but He is there, listening, and caring.
Many words from the Bible are comforting for moms going through miscarriage. Here are a few:
About your baby:
Isaiah 49:1 - The LORD called me from the womb, from the body of my mother he named my name.
Jeremiah 1:5 - Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.
About you:
Isaiah 41:10 - So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Mark 11:24 - Therefore I say to you whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.
Jeremiah 33:6 - Behold, I will bring you health and cure, and I will cure you, and will reveal unto you the abundance of peace and truth.
Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Jeremiah 29:11 I know the plans I have for you says the LORD…to give you a future and a Hope.
Saturday, October 24, 2009
My Sweet Angel
Verse.... "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Phillipians 4:13 NKJV
Thought for today.... Its not the size of your faith that matters; its the size of the God you believe in that makes all the difference. A little faith in a big God gets good results. (Life's Healing Choices)
Song/video......
Poem...
My Sweet Angel
By Michelle L
To my little sweet angel way up above
I send you lots and lots of love
God visited us a little while ago
He took you away and left me so
With a broken heart I now live
And for that I just cannot forgive
So empty inside yet so full of pain
What on earth was he expecting to gain?
I know I shouldn't be angry with the man above
And I'll try not to be for you my love
I'm sure he's taking good care of you
With his Angels in heaven there too
Oh it hurts so much to know you are gone
I think of you all day long
I know that you are in spirit somewhere
And you'll continue to grow with care
I want you back but I know it cant be
So for now only in my dreams I shall see
Your baby face and how beautiful you truely are
Your spirit is close yet feels so far
My little sweet angel way up above
You have a place in my heart so full of love
I really do wish you were still here
But I can try rest if I know you are near
Dealing with loss.... I found this on http://www.pregnancy.info/
People say awful things.
Most people don't really know what to say, so they make something up on the spot or repeat old-fashioned sayings that don't really apply. I think that they feel the need to say something, and they want somehow to make it all better. While many of the stupid things that people will say to you upon learning you have lost a baby seem thoughtless and even cruel, do realize that it is difficult to find the right thing to say to you. You will probably be upset no matter what they say. This is okay, you can always just walk away from the conversation.
For those of you who want to retort, here are some replies to the most common comments you will hear.
Comment: "This was probably a blessing in disguise."
Reply: "I don't see it that way; this is actually very hard for me."
Comment: "At least you weren't farther along."
Reply: "I think a baby is a baby no matter how big he or she is."
Comment: "Now you have an angel in heaven."
Reply: "Yes, but I'm sure I'd rather have a baby here."
Comment: "This was God's will."
Reply: "I don't think I or anyone really knows what God's will is exactly."
Comment: "Be glad you didn't get attached to it."
Reply: "Actually, we were quite attached to our little baby."
Comment: "Stop worrying. My cousin had four miscarriages and she had a baby just fine."
Reply: "I am very sorry for your cousin. I know how hard those four miscarriages must have been."
Comment: "If you stop thinking about it, you'll feel better."
Reply: "Actually, thinking about the baby is important to me."
Comment: "You can always have another one."
Reply: "Yes, but I still lost this one, and one child can never replace another."
Sometimes the best way to handle difficult people is to simply avoid them until you are up to it. If the problem is a mother-in-law (and it often is), ask your husband to handle her calls and keep yourself busy in the kitchen or elsewhere when she visits. Don't take her or anyone else's comments as being critical of you. Even when they seem that way; they are rarely meant to be.
Mean and Petty People
We all know they are out there. People who are thoughtless, crude, or mean. Who knows why they are like they are. Maybe life was too harsh for them. Maybe they are socially inept. But they have the power to really really upset you.
It's best to avoid these people, but sometimes their meanness seeps into your life, and sometimes they are your family. Here are some examples of terrible, horrible things people have said to women on the bulletin boards. Maybe the people you know will seem like angels in comparison.
From a woman who had just had a baby to a woman who had just lost one: "Thank God I didn't follow your pregnancy advice!" (Did she think this was a joke?)
From a mother-in-law when both her daughter and the daughter-in-law were pregnant and the daughter-in-law lost her baby: "Well at least my daughter knows how to take care of herself and give me a grandchild."
From a "friend" after hearing about the loss of a baby during a vacation: "I told you not to go on that plane trip. Everyone knows it causes miscarriage." (It does not.)
From another friend, who was also pregnant. "God, I hope it's not catching."
From a mother to her daughter. "You shouldn't have had a baby with that creep anyway. Thank God it died."
Thought for today.... Its not the size of your faith that matters; its the size of the God you believe in that makes all the difference. A little faith in a big God gets good results. (Life's Healing Choices)
Song/video......
Poem...
My Sweet Angel
By Michelle L
To my little sweet angel way up above
I send you lots and lots of love
God visited us a little while ago
He took you away and left me so
With a broken heart I now live
And for that I just cannot forgive
So empty inside yet so full of pain
What on earth was he expecting to gain?
I know I shouldn't be angry with the man above
And I'll try not to be for you my love
I'm sure he's taking good care of you
With his Angels in heaven there too
Oh it hurts so much to know you are gone
I think of you all day long
I know that you are in spirit somewhere
And you'll continue to grow with care
I want you back but I know it cant be
So for now only in my dreams I shall see
Your baby face and how beautiful you truely are
Your spirit is close yet feels so far
My little sweet angel way up above
You have a place in my heart so full of love
I really do wish you were still here
But I can try rest if I know you are near
Dealing with loss.... I found this on http://www.pregnancy.info/
People say awful things.
Most people don't really know what to say, so they make something up on the spot or repeat old-fashioned sayings that don't really apply. I think that they feel the need to say something, and they want somehow to make it all better. While many of the stupid things that people will say to you upon learning you have lost a baby seem thoughtless and even cruel, do realize that it is difficult to find the right thing to say to you. You will probably be upset no matter what they say. This is okay, you can always just walk away from the conversation.
For those of you who want to retort, here are some replies to the most common comments you will hear.
Comment: "This was probably a blessing in disguise."
Reply: "I don't see it that way; this is actually very hard for me."
Comment: "At least you weren't farther along."
Reply: "I think a baby is a baby no matter how big he or she is."
Comment: "Now you have an angel in heaven."
Reply: "Yes, but I'm sure I'd rather have a baby here."
Comment: "This was God's will."
Reply: "I don't think I or anyone really knows what God's will is exactly."
Comment: "Be glad you didn't get attached to it."
Reply: "Actually, we were quite attached to our little baby."
Comment: "Stop worrying. My cousin had four miscarriages and she had a baby just fine."
Reply: "I am very sorry for your cousin. I know how hard those four miscarriages must have been."
Comment: "If you stop thinking about it, you'll feel better."
Reply: "Actually, thinking about the baby is important to me."
Comment: "You can always have another one."
Reply: "Yes, but I still lost this one, and one child can never replace another."
Sometimes the best way to handle difficult people is to simply avoid them until you are up to it. If the problem is a mother-in-law (and it often is), ask your husband to handle her calls and keep yourself busy in the kitchen or elsewhere when she visits. Don't take her or anyone else's comments as being critical of you. Even when they seem that way; they are rarely meant to be.
Mean and Petty People
We all know they are out there. People who are thoughtless, crude, or mean. Who knows why they are like they are. Maybe life was too harsh for them. Maybe they are socially inept. But they have the power to really really upset you.
It's best to avoid these people, but sometimes their meanness seeps into your life, and sometimes they are your family. Here are some examples of terrible, horrible things people have said to women on the bulletin boards. Maybe the people you know will seem like angels in comparison.
From a woman who had just had a baby to a woman who had just lost one: "Thank God I didn't follow your pregnancy advice!" (Did she think this was a joke?)
From a mother-in-law when both her daughter and the daughter-in-law were pregnant and the daughter-in-law lost her baby: "Well at least my daughter knows how to take care of herself and give me a grandchild."
From a "friend" after hearing about the loss of a baby during a vacation: "I told you not to go on that plane trip. Everyone knows it causes miscarriage." (It does not.)
From another friend, who was also pregnant. "God, I hope it's not catching."
From a mother to her daughter. "You shouldn't have had a baby with that creep anyway. Thank God it died."
Friday, October 23, 2009
Wings & Halos
I am going to open myself up for questions... If you girls have questions about how I have kept my faith or how I keep going please feel free to email me at pregnancylossprayergroup@yahoo.com or you can comment on today's inspiration blog post. I will answer your questions to the best of my ability... I have seen alot of people do Q&A and just feel like now is the right time to do it... I hope that you are all blessed by this daily inspiration blog..
Verse.... "God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you to grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished." Phillipians 1:6 LB
Thought for today... God knows all about your sins and your failures, and he loves you anyway. He is ready to forgive all of them if you will just humble yourself and ask him to forgive you.
Song/video....
Poem.....
Wings & Halos
By Suzanne in memory of Joey
Born and lost February 14th 2001
I was so excited when I woke up today
I heard my Mommy was coming to play
I washed my wings and my halo too
Cuz that's what Mommy likes me to do
I went to the place where I knew she'd be
It's where she comes to visit me
She comes for comfort in her despair
Oh Mommy, can't you feel me touching your hair?
I'm by your side all through the night
I never let you out of my sight
I was your baby for only a day
But soon we can be together and play
You know we'll never be apart
You'll never let me leave your heart
Mommy I'm not really in the ground,
lift up your head and look around
The clouds, the birds, the raindrops too
these gifts of life were given to you
Don't cry for me Mommy, I know you're here
Please let me wipe away that tear.
I was sent to you from up above
And you showed me the ultimate love
Instead of giving me all of your years
You freely gave me all of your tears
Remember your relatives, the ones who have died?
They brought me here, I'm by their side
They watch over me and help me to see
just how much you really love me
So don't be unhappy when you come visit me
I'm the angel above you, up in the tree
And when you leave, you'll never be through
You'll always be my Mommy
And I'll always love you
Verse.... "God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you to grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished." Phillipians 1:6 LB
Thought for today... God knows all about your sins and your failures, and he loves you anyway. He is ready to forgive all of them if you will just humble yourself and ask him to forgive you.
Song/video....
Poem.....
Wings & Halos
By Suzanne in memory of Joey
Born and lost February 14th 2001
I was so excited when I woke up today
I heard my Mommy was coming to play
I washed my wings and my halo too
Cuz that's what Mommy likes me to do
I went to the place where I knew she'd be
It's where she comes to visit me
She comes for comfort in her despair
Oh Mommy, can't you feel me touching your hair?
I'm by your side all through the night
I never let you out of my sight
I was your baby for only a day
But soon we can be together and play
You know we'll never be apart
You'll never let me leave your heart
Mommy I'm not really in the ground,
lift up your head and look around
The clouds, the birds, the raindrops too
these gifts of life were given to you
Don't cry for me Mommy, I know you're here
Please let me wipe away that tear.
I was sent to you from up above
And you showed me the ultimate love
Instead of giving me all of your years
You freely gave me all of your tears
Remember your relatives, the ones who have died?
They brought me here, I'm by their side
They watch over me and help me to see
just how much you really love me
So don't be unhappy when you come visit me
I'm the angel above you, up in the tree
And when you leave, you'll never be through
You'll always be my Mommy
And I'll always love you
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Rest in peace....
Verse.... "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows." II Corinthians 1:3-5 NIV
Thought for today.... Earnestly believe that God exists and he has the power to help you change...
Video....
Poem...
Rest in Peace
By Maia Bliss
Rest in peace, my little son.
Your life was over before it begun.
You were with me for not much time,
Five short months that you were mine.
Then one day you had to go,
The reason why we'll never know.
The night you were born, I knew in my heart,
You will always be with me though we're apart.
You were so tiny but perfect to me,
Little fingers and toes, perfect as can be.
I held you in my arms, I didn't want to let go,
Here's a few things I want you to know.........
When you left you took a part of me,
Something that no one can see.
You have my heart with you always
Even on the cloudiest days.
Your brother and sister love you too,
Even though they never saw you.
When you felt mommy and daddy give you that kiss.........
You're forever in our hearts
Thought for today.... Earnestly believe that God exists and he has the power to help you change...
Video....
Poem...
Rest in Peace
By Maia Bliss
Rest in peace, my little son.
Your life was over before it begun.
You were with me for not much time,
Five short months that you were mine.
Then one day you had to go,
The reason why we'll never know.
The night you were born, I knew in my heart,
You will always be with me though we're apart.
You were so tiny but perfect to me,
Little fingers and toes, perfect as can be.
I held you in my arms, I didn't want to let go,
Here's a few things I want you to know.........
When you left you took a part of me,
Something that no one can see.
You have my heart with you always
Even on the cloudiest days.
Your brother and sister love you too,
Even though they never saw you.
When you felt mommy and daddy give you that kiss.........
You're forever in our hearts
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
God knows...
Verse... "We saw how powerless we were to help ourselves; but that was good, for then we put everything into the hands of God, who alone could save us, for he can even raise the dead." 2 Corinthians 1:9 (LB)
Thought for today..... Humbly admit to God that I need help. I am broken. My secrets make me sick. My pride keeps me stuck.. Then ask God for help.
Song/video.....
Poem....
When you are tired and discouraged from doomed circumstances and situations...
God knows how hard you have tried.
When you've cried for so long and your heart is in such anguish...
God has counted your tears.
If you feel that your life is on hold and time has just passed you by...
God is waiting with you.
When you're lonely and your friends are too busy to call or can't understand...
God is by your side.
When you think you've tried everything and don't know where else to turn...
God has a solution.
When nothing makes sense and you are hurt, confused or frustrated...
God has the answer.
If suddenly your outlook is brighter and you find traces of hope in life...
God has whispered to you.
When things are going well and you have much to be thankful for...
God has blessed you.
When something amazing happens and you find that special someone...
God has smiled upon you.
When you have a dream to follow and also a reality to live...
God has opened your eyes and called your name.
Remember that wherever you are or whatever you are facing now...
GOD KNOWS!!
Coping with grief.... from http://www.pregnancyloss.info/
Dealing with Other People
No one will talk about it.
Many, many women write me and say that no one will let them talk about their baby, and even their close friends, church members, and family shy away from the topic. This is so common that it has become the number one comment I get in emails.
What is really happening? Your friends, your coworkers, your church acquaintances know you are hurting, and hurting deeply. They do not know what to say. They want you to feel better, so they think somehow, if they ignore what happened, you will forget about it sooner. There are a lot of people who honestly believe that the more you talk about something, the worse you feel. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Unfortunately, unless you feel comfortable bringing it up (and you SHOULD; it is perfectly okay), no one else will. Would you want to be talking on the phone with someone, having a perfectly normal conversation, and then suddenly say something that makes the other person burst into tears? This is what your friends believe will happen (and they are probably right), and they don't want to put you through that. They don't understand that this is exactly what you need to do.
I forced the issue on my friends for a while, refusing to talk about anything else. All the while, however, I got on the internet, in chat rooms and bulletin boards, talking to other women in my situation who were interested in every detail. When you can't get the support you need in your current circle of friends, reach out to those of us who have been there. I have made countless friends through our shared experiences, and these are people you can count on to understand and not to say anything stupid. They have been there, and for a while, they are the best friends you will have.
Find an online forum for women who have experienced a loss. Visit it and get the support you need outside your normal circles, for a while. When you are used to talking about your baby, then you may be ready to bring up the subject with your family and friends. I think you will find that many of them really want to know what happened.
Thought for today..... Humbly admit to God that I need help. I am broken. My secrets make me sick. My pride keeps me stuck.. Then ask God for help.
Song/video.....
Poem....
When you are tired and discouraged from doomed circumstances and situations...
God knows how hard you have tried.
When you've cried for so long and your heart is in such anguish...
God has counted your tears.
If you feel that your life is on hold and time has just passed you by...
God is waiting with you.
When you're lonely and your friends are too busy to call or can't understand...
God is by your side.
When you think you've tried everything and don't know where else to turn...
God has a solution.
When nothing makes sense and you are hurt, confused or frustrated...
God has the answer.
If suddenly your outlook is brighter and you find traces of hope in life...
God has whispered to you.
When things are going well and you have much to be thankful for...
God has blessed you.
When something amazing happens and you find that special someone...
God has smiled upon you.
When you have a dream to follow and also a reality to live...
God has opened your eyes and called your name.
Remember that wherever you are or whatever you are facing now...
GOD KNOWS!!
Coping with grief.... from http://www.pregnancyloss.info/
Dealing with Other People
No one will talk about it.
Many, many women write me and say that no one will let them talk about their baby, and even their close friends, church members, and family shy away from the topic. This is so common that it has become the number one comment I get in emails.
What is really happening? Your friends, your coworkers, your church acquaintances know you are hurting, and hurting deeply. They do not know what to say. They want you to feel better, so they think somehow, if they ignore what happened, you will forget about it sooner. There are a lot of people who honestly believe that the more you talk about something, the worse you feel. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Unfortunately, unless you feel comfortable bringing it up (and you SHOULD; it is perfectly okay), no one else will. Would you want to be talking on the phone with someone, having a perfectly normal conversation, and then suddenly say something that makes the other person burst into tears? This is what your friends believe will happen (and they are probably right), and they don't want to put you through that. They don't understand that this is exactly what you need to do.
I forced the issue on my friends for a while, refusing to talk about anything else. All the while, however, I got on the internet, in chat rooms and bulletin boards, talking to other women in my situation who were interested in every detail. When you can't get the support you need in your current circle of friends, reach out to those of us who have been there. I have made countless friends through our shared experiences, and these are people you can count on to understand and not to say anything stupid. They have been there, and for a while, they are the best friends you will have.
Find an online forum for women who have experienced a loss. Visit it and get the support you need outside your normal circles, for a while. When you are used to talking about your baby, then you may be ready to bring up the subject with your family and friends. I think you will find that many of them really want to know what happened.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Dealing with grief....
Verse..... "Come to me, all of you who are weary and over-burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:29
Thought for today..... Let go and let God!
Song
Poem....Instead of a poem I thought some helpful words about grief would be a nice change... I hope that you find this information helpful. I found it on http://www.pregnancyloss.info/ I hold no rights to this.
Feelings You May Have
I feel despair.
It is natural to feel despair and incredible, debilitating sadness. You may not want to get out of bed, talk to anyone, eat, or even breathe. You may think about killing yourself to be with your baby or just lying in bed until everyone gets the point and leaves you alone. I felt all these things.
You have every right to feel this way. Let it go for a day or two, even as much as a week. By then, it should start to ease a bit. Your emotions may shift to anger or defeat. But when you cry, you do eventually stop. Your mind will drift to other things occasionally. And you will start getting better.
If in a week you are not feeling somewhat better, if you are still feeling like being with your baby would be better than being here, reach out to someone, anyone, email me, call someone you know, find a miscarriage support group, go to a church, do something. Fight to get back to the surface and out of deep despair that you feel.
Remember that you still have things to live for, things out there in a future you can't see right now--children you will eventually have, either yourself or through adoption, love you will feel, friends you will make. Don't give up yet.
When is despair dangerous? When you stop thinking about committing suicide and start planning it. If you have taken any steps toward really doing it, or sorted out in your mind what would be the easiest way, please, please, get help immediately. What is happening to you isn't just the loss of your baby, it is a hormone imbalance that is affecting your thinking. It is very possible to get out of your despair with just a little bit of help from a professional. You must do this. You have a future.
I feel angry.
You are perfectly justified. It's hard to know where exactly to direct your anger, though. God? Fate? Your doctor? Your husband? Yourself? You wonder why in hell you had to get pregnant if this was going to happen. Why did you have to carry the baby so long? Why did it have to happen to you?
Anger is one of the natural parts of the grieving process. It is a healthy emotion right now and will get you feeling stronger. But it will probably not last. Anger usually gives way very quickly to sadness and despair. Sometimes you will feel flushed with anger, and just as quickly you will be sobbing. You may feel like you are out of control. Maybe you want to smash things. I actually did smash some things. It helped for a moment or two. Then I just had to sweep it up.
All these things are real and valid feelings. And we all experienced them. You are part of a large sorority of sad and angry mothers of angels. We all understand. And we're angry too.
This miscarriage is my fault.
I can't tell you how many women have explained to me what they did to cause their miscarriage, or to ask if their stressful job or glasses of wine were what did it. For a long time, I blamed myself too. Then I learned I had a malformed uterus. All that guilt was for nothing.
Let me be the one to tell you: YOU DID NOT CAUSE THIS MISCARRIAGE.
I don't care if you were smoking crack--those babies are born all the time. Stand up on the job all day? Doesn't matter. On bed rest but got up a couple of times to raid the refrigerator or use the bathroom (or even to go out to dinner)? Insignificant. Nature is not perfect. Our genetic code sometimes doesn't work just right. It's terrible; it's sad. I hate it. But it has nothing to do with your sins, your stress, your mistakes, your nutrition, or your relationship. There was nothing you could have done.
I know. Some of you still feel a nagging guilt. But try to put it out of your mind. It really, truly was not your fault. And most likely, it will not happen again.
I think I'm going crazy.
Remember to give yourself time to handle your grief. IT IS REAL AND VALID. You may want to read some of the other women's miscarriage stories here or on other web sites to help you see that the crazy things you feel are normal. I did and thought many things after my miscarriage that I thought were really unhealthy or insane, including:
Wanting to die to be with my baby
Cuddling the sonogram pictures like a baby
Hugging the tree we planted in Casey's memory (in full view of neighbors)
Getting angry with myself for laughing or having a good time
Picking fights with my husband for no reason
Telling perfect strangers about my baby
It may not get much better for a long time. There will probably be a time, about 3-4 months later, that it will actually get worse. Getting pregnant again may not give you the release from grief you seek. Just give yourself time and surround yourself with people who care and understand. Forget the rest of them, for now.
If I could make one recommendation that has helped me tremendously, it would be to put together a memory box of your baby's things, even if it is only sympathy cards and a positive pregnancy test, or just letters you are writing to him/her. For several months, I went into the nursery and opened that box and cried every single day. I found that if I didn't, I felt like I was in a grief-fog all day. The memory box validates my baby's existence. Since I don't have a grave or a container of ashes, I go to it.
No one understands
You are right. Unless they have had a miscarriage (and fairly recently at that), people you talk to will not understand what you are going through. The average person will expect you to completely "get over" the miscarriage in about two weeks. This is about the point that things may actually get worse for you, when reality has set in, and you are failing to cope. Women suffer alone with miscarriage, and even the baby's father, your own mother, your best friend, or others you thought you could rely upon will fail you. The best course is to surround yourself for a while with people who DO understand, who are going through it right with you. You can find them in local support groups (call your doctor's office or a large OB practice in your area) or join a bulletin board. See some of the topics under "dealing with others" for other ideas on how to cope with solitary grieving.
My partner isn't supportive or grieving like me
This is the number one complaint of women. They feel sad, overwhelmed, and grief-stricken, and their partners are still watching football, going to work just fine, or even telling them to "get over it."
There are a few critical points I want to bring up about this:
Almost every single woman feels this way (only a very small number mention partners that are sensitive and helpful)
100% of dads I've talked to or who have gotten on the board either want to know how to be strong for their wives or confess that they are grieving deeply and don't want their wives to know
Men (and many women) really do believe that if you stop thinking about something, the problem goes away. Thus, they say comments like "Stop thinking about it" or "You're getting obsessed about this" or "I don't want to talk about it anymore." Truly, nothing could be further from the truth. Talking about your problems is a catharsis and will help you heal faster.
A very natural dynamic in every couple, particularly if you live together or are married, is that only one person can fall apart at a time. If you both fall apart, no one will be making dinner, keeping the clothes washed, or manage other children, if you have them. This is an important function of the partnership, and is very rarely breached. Whoever is less sad at the moment will swallow their grief and deal with it later. The other person will feel abandoned and alone, and the partner may recognize it, but feel helpless to really get involved due to the pressure of keeping everyday life going. This time will pass, and the acute phase is usually a month or less.
I am so jealous of pregnant women, even family and friends
This is perfectly natural, and is reported by 100% of women who have lost babies. Why you and not them? Why does your teenage niece get to have a baby when you don't? Or that woman who is still smoking? Or the five friends of yours who are pregnant right now?
You will feel surrounded by babies and pregnant women. You will see reminders of your loss everywhere. This is something you are going to have to tough out. Here are some things that might help:
Buy something for your baby. Or better yet, make a little memory box. (See memorializing your baby.) You will feel comforted and more like a mom yourself--because you are one!
Don't feel obligated to go to baby showers. Don't bother with excuses, or to explain yourself. Just send a lovely note with a gift certificate to the mall, or Target, or an online baby store, and say, "Wish I could have made it. Best wishes." Will some people be upset? If it is your best friend, or your sister-in-law, maybe. But that's okay. One of the two of you were going to get bent out of shape with this situation, so let it be the one who is about to have a joyful moment and will forget all about it in a few weeks.
Don't bottle it up. If pregnant co-workers or friends talk incessantly about babies, just say, "I am so happy you all have so much to look forward to. I can't wait until it is one day my turn." Then walk away! There is no need to stand around and endure the conversation. Even if they say something negative about your sensitivity, they are just projecting how guilty they feel for upsetting you. They know it's their fault. And they have no idea how hard this is for you. Often you'll find out who has had a miscarriage before, because they will seek you out with a sympathetic, understanding ear.
Thought for today..... Let go and let God!
Song
Poem....Instead of a poem I thought some helpful words about grief would be a nice change... I hope that you find this information helpful. I found it on http://www.pregnancyloss.info/ I hold no rights to this.
Feelings You May Have
I feel despair.
It is natural to feel despair and incredible, debilitating sadness. You may not want to get out of bed, talk to anyone, eat, or even breathe. You may think about killing yourself to be with your baby or just lying in bed until everyone gets the point and leaves you alone. I felt all these things.
You have every right to feel this way. Let it go for a day or two, even as much as a week. By then, it should start to ease a bit. Your emotions may shift to anger or defeat. But when you cry, you do eventually stop. Your mind will drift to other things occasionally. And you will start getting better.
If in a week you are not feeling somewhat better, if you are still feeling like being with your baby would be better than being here, reach out to someone, anyone, email me, call someone you know, find a miscarriage support group, go to a church, do something. Fight to get back to the surface and out of deep despair that you feel.
Remember that you still have things to live for, things out there in a future you can't see right now--children you will eventually have, either yourself or through adoption, love you will feel, friends you will make. Don't give up yet.
When is despair dangerous? When you stop thinking about committing suicide and start planning it. If you have taken any steps toward really doing it, or sorted out in your mind what would be the easiest way, please, please, get help immediately. What is happening to you isn't just the loss of your baby, it is a hormone imbalance that is affecting your thinking. It is very possible to get out of your despair with just a little bit of help from a professional. You must do this. You have a future.
I feel angry.
You are perfectly justified. It's hard to know where exactly to direct your anger, though. God? Fate? Your doctor? Your husband? Yourself? You wonder why in hell you had to get pregnant if this was going to happen. Why did you have to carry the baby so long? Why did it have to happen to you?
Anger is one of the natural parts of the grieving process. It is a healthy emotion right now and will get you feeling stronger. But it will probably not last. Anger usually gives way very quickly to sadness and despair. Sometimes you will feel flushed with anger, and just as quickly you will be sobbing. You may feel like you are out of control. Maybe you want to smash things. I actually did smash some things. It helped for a moment or two. Then I just had to sweep it up.
All these things are real and valid feelings. And we all experienced them. You are part of a large sorority of sad and angry mothers of angels. We all understand. And we're angry too.
This miscarriage is my fault.
I can't tell you how many women have explained to me what they did to cause their miscarriage, or to ask if their stressful job or glasses of wine were what did it. For a long time, I blamed myself too. Then I learned I had a malformed uterus. All that guilt was for nothing.
Let me be the one to tell you: YOU DID NOT CAUSE THIS MISCARRIAGE.
I don't care if you were smoking crack--those babies are born all the time. Stand up on the job all day? Doesn't matter. On bed rest but got up a couple of times to raid the refrigerator or use the bathroom (or even to go out to dinner)? Insignificant. Nature is not perfect. Our genetic code sometimes doesn't work just right. It's terrible; it's sad. I hate it. But it has nothing to do with your sins, your stress, your mistakes, your nutrition, or your relationship. There was nothing you could have done.
I know. Some of you still feel a nagging guilt. But try to put it out of your mind. It really, truly was not your fault. And most likely, it will not happen again.
I think I'm going crazy.
Remember to give yourself time to handle your grief. IT IS REAL AND VALID. You may want to read some of the other women's miscarriage stories here or on other web sites to help you see that the crazy things you feel are normal. I did and thought many things after my miscarriage that I thought were really unhealthy or insane, including:
Wanting to die to be with my baby
Cuddling the sonogram pictures like a baby
Hugging the tree we planted in Casey's memory (in full view of neighbors)
Getting angry with myself for laughing or having a good time
Picking fights with my husband for no reason
Telling perfect strangers about my baby
It may not get much better for a long time. There will probably be a time, about 3-4 months later, that it will actually get worse. Getting pregnant again may not give you the release from grief you seek. Just give yourself time and surround yourself with people who care and understand. Forget the rest of them, for now.
If I could make one recommendation that has helped me tremendously, it would be to put together a memory box of your baby's things, even if it is only sympathy cards and a positive pregnancy test, or just letters you are writing to him/her. For several months, I went into the nursery and opened that box and cried every single day. I found that if I didn't, I felt like I was in a grief-fog all day. The memory box validates my baby's existence. Since I don't have a grave or a container of ashes, I go to it.
No one understands
You are right. Unless they have had a miscarriage (and fairly recently at that), people you talk to will not understand what you are going through. The average person will expect you to completely "get over" the miscarriage in about two weeks. This is about the point that things may actually get worse for you, when reality has set in, and you are failing to cope. Women suffer alone with miscarriage, and even the baby's father, your own mother, your best friend, or others you thought you could rely upon will fail you. The best course is to surround yourself for a while with people who DO understand, who are going through it right with you. You can find them in local support groups (call your doctor's office or a large OB practice in your area) or join a bulletin board. See some of the topics under "dealing with others" for other ideas on how to cope with solitary grieving.
My partner isn't supportive or grieving like me
This is the number one complaint of women. They feel sad, overwhelmed, and grief-stricken, and their partners are still watching football, going to work just fine, or even telling them to "get over it."
There are a few critical points I want to bring up about this:
Almost every single woman feels this way (only a very small number mention partners that are sensitive and helpful)
100% of dads I've talked to or who have gotten on the board either want to know how to be strong for their wives or confess that they are grieving deeply and don't want their wives to know
Men (and many women) really do believe that if you stop thinking about something, the problem goes away. Thus, they say comments like "Stop thinking about it" or "You're getting obsessed about this" or "I don't want to talk about it anymore." Truly, nothing could be further from the truth. Talking about your problems is a catharsis and will help you heal faster.
A very natural dynamic in every couple, particularly if you live together or are married, is that only one person can fall apart at a time. If you both fall apart, no one will be making dinner, keeping the clothes washed, or manage other children, if you have them. This is an important function of the partnership, and is very rarely breached. Whoever is less sad at the moment will swallow their grief and deal with it later. The other person will feel abandoned and alone, and the partner may recognize it, but feel helpless to really get involved due to the pressure of keeping everyday life going. This time will pass, and the acute phase is usually a month or less.
I am so jealous of pregnant women, even family and friends
This is perfectly natural, and is reported by 100% of women who have lost babies. Why you and not them? Why does your teenage niece get to have a baby when you don't? Or that woman who is still smoking? Or the five friends of yours who are pregnant right now?
You will feel surrounded by babies and pregnant women. You will see reminders of your loss everywhere. This is something you are going to have to tough out. Here are some things that might help:
Buy something for your baby. Or better yet, make a little memory box. (See memorializing your baby.) You will feel comforted and more like a mom yourself--because you are one!
Don't feel obligated to go to baby showers. Don't bother with excuses, or to explain yourself. Just send a lovely note with a gift certificate to the mall, or Target, or an online baby store, and say, "Wish I could have made it. Best wishes." Will some people be upset? If it is your best friend, or your sister-in-law, maybe. But that's okay. One of the two of you were going to get bent out of shape with this situation, so let it be the one who is about to have a joyful moment and will forget all about it in a few weeks.
Don't bottle it up. If pregnant co-workers or friends talk incessantly about babies, just say, "I am so happy you all have so much to look forward to. I can't wait until it is one day my turn." Then walk away! There is no need to stand around and endure the conversation. Even if they say something negative about your sensitivity, they are just projecting how guilty they feel for upsetting you. They know it's their fault. And they have no idea how hard this is for you. Often you'll find out who has had a miscarriage before, because they will seek you out with a sympathetic, understanding ear.
Monday, October 19, 2009
Did you light a candle?
Verse..... "My groaning has worn me out. At night my bed and pillow are soaked with tears." Psalm 6:6 CEV
Thought for today..... Its time to let God's love cover all things in your life. All secrets. All hurts... (Max Lucado)
Song.....
Poem..... Did you light a candle?
Did you light a candle in memory of my child?
Or did you go about your life ignoring the pain I feel inside?
If my child had drawn a breath and walked upon this Earth
Would you have remembered and felt that life had worth?
Do you think that I'm not coping because I didn't give up?
Was I so foolish for hoping
For expecting a little love?
Do you think I should have more Faith
And trust God a little more?
Faith and Hope are all I have
Hope that my child waits for me at Heaven's door.
Don't tell me to count my blessings
Because I already do.
I can't fill the void of my lost child with platitudes.
Could you?
by Clarissa J. Moore
This poetic rant is a reaction to the lack luster response she got from family and friends to my reaching out to them about Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. This woke me up this morning so I hope it is a "God Thing" and I was meant to share.
A huge thank you to Clarissa for allowing me to use her poem on this post. I think it is a fantastic and explains how alot of us feel after a loss.
Thought for today..... Its time to let God's love cover all things in your life. All secrets. All hurts... (Max Lucado)
Song.....
Poem..... Did you light a candle?
Did you light a candle in memory of my child?
Or did you go about your life ignoring the pain I feel inside?
If my child had drawn a breath and walked upon this Earth
Would you have remembered and felt that life had worth?
Do you think that I'm not coping because I didn't give up?
Was I so foolish for hoping
For expecting a little love?
Do you think I should have more Faith
And trust God a little more?
Faith and Hope are all I have
Hope that my child waits for me at Heaven's door.
Don't tell me to count my blessings
Because I already do.
I can't fill the void of my lost child with platitudes.
Could you?
by Clarissa J. Moore
This poetic rant is a reaction to the lack luster response she got from family and friends to my reaching out to them about Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. This woke me up this morning so I hope it is a "God Thing" and I was meant to share.
A huge thank you to Clarissa for allowing me to use her poem on this post. I think it is a fantastic and explains how alot of us feel after a loss.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Precious butterfly
Good morning ladies. Im sorry that I missed posting yesterday, but its been kinda crazy around here..
Verse.... "For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us/" Romans 8:18 KJV
Thought for the day... God gave his one and only son to die on the cross for our sins. He knows how it feels to lose a child. He knows how we feel.
Dealing with anger..... I found this on a blog and had to share with you ladies. I am in the anger stage myself right now... I hope this helps.
Anger
It may not feel like it, but anger is a very productive stage of the grief process. Anger has the potential to consume you like a runaway train, however. When you lose a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth or death right after birth you may be angry at many people and/or many things. It is very normal to be angry at medical personnel, your spouse, family members, other pregnant women, even yourself (your body) and God. You may think “Why did this have to happen” or “Why didn’t they do more to save my baby?”.
Many of us are taught that it’s not OK to show and/or outwardly express our anger (especially women). We often tend to suppress it. It is important to recognize your anger, and to have productive outlets to release it. Keeping your anger inside may cause it to build and create other problems for you both emotionally and physically. Here are some things you might consider doing to release your anger. Do whatever works best for you:
Hit or scream into a pillow, throw a ball (soft preferably)
Do some sort of physical activity like jogging, swimming or other exercise (make sure this is OK’d by your doctor first if you decide to do this shortly after your loss). I used to vacuum and pick weeds like crazy!
Have a fit. Cry, scream and/or yell. You can do this in your car or in the privacy of your home. (I used to sit in my car in our garage and let loose.)
Write about your feelings of anger in a journal. Make drawings or pictures of what your anger might look like, tear them up and throw them away (or keep them and throw darts at them- careful with the walls!).
Talk to someone who is understanding about your feelings of anger
Meditate, listen to soothing music, get in touch with your spirituality
In externalizing your anger, you may avoid situations that can be damaging to you or loved ones around you in the long run. If you purposefully express your anger, your grief recovery may be made somewhat easier to bear and you may perhaps begin to feel a greater sense of control over a situation that at times can feel completely out of control.
Song/video....
Poem..... I found this online I hold no rights to this poem..
Our butterfly
Its so hard to say goodbye
to our precious butterfly
so wanted and so loved
our hopes and dreams were fulfilled
but you were taken away so soon
before you go to grow and bloom
mournful tears fill our eyes
we look to God and ask him "Why"
what reasons could there be
to take my joy away from me
its hard to breathe and hard to be
our precious butterfly now flies free
Verse.... "For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us/" Romans 8:18 KJV
Thought for the day... God gave his one and only son to die on the cross for our sins. He knows how it feels to lose a child. He knows how we feel.
Dealing with anger..... I found this on a blog and had to share with you ladies. I am in the anger stage myself right now... I hope this helps.
Anger
It may not feel like it, but anger is a very productive stage of the grief process. Anger has the potential to consume you like a runaway train, however. When you lose a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth or death right after birth you may be angry at many people and/or many things. It is very normal to be angry at medical personnel, your spouse, family members, other pregnant women, even yourself (your body) and God. You may think “Why did this have to happen” or “Why didn’t they do more to save my baby?”.
Many of us are taught that it’s not OK to show and/or outwardly express our anger (especially women). We often tend to suppress it. It is important to recognize your anger, and to have productive outlets to release it. Keeping your anger inside may cause it to build and create other problems for you both emotionally and physically. Here are some things you might consider doing to release your anger. Do whatever works best for you:
Hit or scream into a pillow, throw a ball (soft preferably)
Do some sort of physical activity like jogging, swimming or other exercise (make sure this is OK’d by your doctor first if you decide to do this shortly after your loss). I used to vacuum and pick weeds like crazy!
Have a fit. Cry, scream and/or yell. You can do this in your car or in the privacy of your home. (I used to sit in my car in our garage and let loose.)
Write about your feelings of anger in a journal. Make drawings or pictures of what your anger might look like, tear them up and throw them away (or keep them and throw darts at them- careful with the walls!).
Talk to someone who is understanding about your feelings of anger
Meditate, listen to soothing music, get in touch with your spirituality
In externalizing your anger, you may avoid situations that can be damaging to you or loved ones around you in the long run. If you purposefully express your anger, your grief recovery may be made somewhat easier to bear and you may perhaps begin to feel a greater sense of control over a situation that at times can feel completely out of control.
Song/video....
Poem..... I found this online I hold no rights to this poem..
Our butterfly
Its so hard to say goodbye
to our precious butterfly
so wanted and so loved
our hopes and dreams were fulfilled
but you were taken away so soon
before you go to grow and bloom
mournful tears fill our eyes
we look to God and ask him "Why"
what reasons could there be
to take my joy away from me
its hard to breathe and hard to be
our precious butterfly now flies free
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day
Verse..... "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28 NIV
Thought for today....... Remembering out babies who have gone to heaven way too soon!
Video......
Poem..... IHO Pregnancy loss remembrance day I am not doing a poem today. I decided to put a picture of a candle lit in honor of all of our babies who have gone to heaven way too soon!
The heart has always been portrayed as the sacred space where our feelings originate and where we store our life experiences; both happy and sad. Angels represent the spiritual world – a realm which transcends our earthly experiences. They are seen as a symbol of comforting help as they bring light and peace into the darkness of our troublesome situations. This is why I have combined both words, heart and angels, in the name for this range of products. I want you to embrace the concept, that while your precious child is no longer with you in the physical, his/her spirit lives on in your heart – your very own special angel of the heart. You continue to spiritually nourish your little one with the love in your heart which wells up like a spring, always flowing freely and watering your inner treasure. Many people find comfort in creating a book of memories surrounding their loss or a personal memorial to their loved one’s life. This can take the form of a journal, scrapbook, compilation of home movies, a favourite song and/or a keepsake box. Here you can store poems you have written or found, result of your pregnancy test, a birthstone of the month your loss occurred, symbols of your child. Perhaps plant a rose bush during a special ceremony or maybe even create a memorial garden. Often your local Garden of Remembrance or church will offer a service you can attend. Some people organize a candle lighting ceremony in their home, garden or park. If you haven’t already done so, give your baby a name; a name honours your child’s existence. There is an old Eskimo legend that says a newborn baby cries because it has not yet received a name. Remembering our loved ones in as many ways as possible allows us to stay connected, but at the same time promotes healing.
Thought for today....... Remembering out babies who have gone to heaven way too soon!
Video......
Poem..... IHO Pregnancy loss remembrance day I am not doing a poem today. I decided to put a picture of a candle lit in honor of all of our babies who have gone to heaven way too soon!
The heart has always been portrayed as the sacred space where our feelings originate and where we store our life experiences; both happy and sad. Angels represent the spiritual world – a realm which transcends our earthly experiences. They are seen as a symbol of comforting help as they bring light and peace into the darkness of our troublesome situations. This is why I have combined both words, heart and angels, in the name for this range of products. I want you to embrace the concept, that while your precious child is no longer with you in the physical, his/her spirit lives on in your heart – your very own special angel of the heart. You continue to spiritually nourish your little one with the love in your heart which wells up like a spring, always flowing freely and watering your inner treasure. Many people find comfort in creating a book of memories surrounding their loss or a personal memorial to their loved one’s life. This can take the form of a journal, scrapbook, compilation of home movies, a favourite song and/or a keepsake box. Here you can store poems you have written or found, result of your pregnancy test, a birthstone of the month your loss occurred, symbols of your child. Perhaps plant a rose bush during a special ceremony or maybe even create a memorial garden. Often your local Garden of Remembrance or church will offer a service you can attend. Some people organize a candle lighting ceremony in their home, garden or park. If you haven’t already done so, give your baby a name; a name honours your child’s existence. There is an old Eskimo legend that says a newborn baby cries because it has not yet received a name. Remembering our loved ones in as many ways as possible allows us to stay connected, but at the same time promotes healing.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
The Mourners Bill of Rights......
Verse... "When we were unable to help ourselves, at the moment of our need, Christ died for us....." Romans 5:6 (NCV)
Thought for today......... "Look! Here I stand at the door and knock. If you hear me calling and open the door I will come in, and we will share a meal as friends." Jesus is standing at the door of your life saying. He wants to come into your life. But He is a gentleman; He will not beat down the door. We need to open the door and let Him in, and the key that unlocks the door is willingness. (from "Life's Healing Choices")
Song/video.........
Poem...
“Mourner’s Bill of Rights.” It was written by Alan D. Wolfelt Ph.D. author, educator, grief counselor and director of the Center For Loss and Transition (http://centerforloss.com).
1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief.
No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do. So, when you turn to others for help, don’t allow them to tell what you should or should not be feeling.
2. You have the right to talk about your grief.
Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk as much as you want, as often as you want, about your grief. If at times you don’t feel like talking, you also have the right to be silent.
3. You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions.
Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey. Others may try to tell you that feeling angry, for example, is wrong. Don’t take these judgmental responses to heart. Instead, find listeners who will accept your feelings without condition.
4. You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits.
Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals. And don’t allow others to push you into doing things you don’t feel ready to do.
5. You have the right to experience “griefbursts.”
Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerful surge of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening, but is normal and natural. Find someone who understands and will let you talk it out.
6. You have the right to make use of ritual.
The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. More importantly, the funeral is a way for you to mourn. If others tell you the funeral or other healing rituals such as these are silly or unnecessary, don’t listen.
7. You have the right to embrace your spirituality.
If faith is a part of your life, express it in ways that seem appropriate to you. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you feel angry at God, find someone to talk with who won’t be critical of your feelings of hurt and abandonment.
8. You have the right to search for meaning.
You may find yourself asking, “Why did he or she die? Why this way? Why now?” Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not. And watch out for the clichéd responses some people may give you. Comments like, “It was God’s will” or “Think of what you have to be thankful for” are not helpful and you do not have to accept them.
9. You have the right to right to treasure your memories.
Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. You will always remember. Instead of ignoring your memories, find others with whom you can share them.
10. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal.
Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. Neither you nor those around you must forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever.”
Thought for today......... "Look! Here I stand at the door and knock. If you hear me calling and open the door I will come in, and we will share a meal as friends." Jesus is standing at the door of your life saying. He wants to come into your life. But He is a gentleman; He will not beat down the door. We need to open the door and let Him in, and the key that unlocks the door is willingness. (from "Life's Healing Choices")
Song/video.........
Poem...
“Mourner’s Bill of Rights.” It was written by Alan D. Wolfelt Ph.D. author, educator, grief counselor and director of the Center For Loss and Transition (http://centerforloss.com).
1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief.
No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do. So, when you turn to others for help, don’t allow them to tell what you should or should not be feeling.
2. You have the right to talk about your grief.
Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk as much as you want, as often as you want, about your grief. If at times you don’t feel like talking, you also have the right to be silent.
3. You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions.
Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey. Others may try to tell you that feeling angry, for example, is wrong. Don’t take these judgmental responses to heart. Instead, find listeners who will accept your feelings without condition.
4. You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits.
Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals. And don’t allow others to push you into doing things you don’t feel ready to do.
5. You have the right to experience “griefbursts.”
Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerful surge of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening, but is normal and natural. Find someone who understands and will let you talk it out.
6. You have the right to make use of ritual.
The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. More importantly, the funeral is a way for you to mourn. If others tell you the funeral or other healing rituals such as these are silly or unnecessary, don’t listen.
7. You have the right to embrace your spirituality.
If faith is a part of your life, express it in ways that seem appropriate to you. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you feel angry at God, find someone to talk with who won’t be critical of your feelings of hurt and abandonment.
8. You have the right to search for meaning.
You may find yourself asking, “Why did he or she die? Why this way? Why now?” Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not. And watch out for the clichéd responses some people may give you. Comments like, “It was God’s will” or “Think of what you have to be thankful for” are not helpful and you do not have to accept them.
9. You have the right to right to treasure your memories.
Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. You will always remember. Instead of ignoring your memories, find others with whom you can share them.
10. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal.
Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. Neither you nor those around you must forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever.”
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
The Two faced woman.....
Good morning ladies. I pray that you all find comfort today.. I do have an email address set up for prayer requests.. pregnancylossprayergroup@yahoo.com Feel free to email me any prayer requests. I try to check it pretty often.
Verse..... "Have you never heard or understood? Don't you know that the Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of all the earth? He never grows faint or waery. No one can measure the depths of his own understanding. He gives power to those who are tired and worn out; he offers strength to the weak. Even youths will become exhausted, and young men will give up. But those who wait on the Lord will find new strength. They will fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:28-31 NLT
Thought for today...... We are broken but loved. Human love fades, but God's love is everlasting!
Song/video....
Poem.... I can totally relate to this poem, I hope you can too!
The Two-Faced Woman:
A wink, a nod, "I'm fine," I say,
To people as they walk past.
But inside my heart is torn to shreds,
My smile is just a mask.
I'll sit and chat, maybe share a joke,
Or at least I'll really try.
But my genuine friends see through the smoke,
My empty eyes cannot lie.
At home I weep, feel down in despair,
My feelings I cannot hide.
From husband, daughter, baby girl,
I'm afraid they're along for the ride.
Those waves of grief, they still hit hard,
And knock me off my feet.
I'm comforted, though, by their tender touch,
My daughters turn the bitter to sweet.
My babies now have Angel Wings,
In heaven they play and rest.
But in my heart I have their love,
And for that, I'm eternally blessed.
Yes, I'm the two-faced woman,
It's a job that I have to do.
To get on in life without my babies,
Day, week, and whole year through.
(I found this on a website it was written by Linda)
Verse..... "Have you never heard or understood? Don't you know that the Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of all the earth? He never grows faint or waery. No one can measure the depths of his own understanding. He gives power to those who are tired and worn out; he offers strength to the weak. Even youths will become exhausted, and young men will give up. But those who wait on the Lord will find new strength. They will fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:28-31 NLT
Thought for today...... We are broken but loved. Human love fades, but God's love is everlasting!
Song/video....
Poem.... I can totally relate to this poem, I hope you can too!
The Two-Faced Woman:
A wink, a nod, "I'm fine," I say,
To people as they walk past.
But inside my heart is torn to shreds,
My smile is just a mask.
I'll sit and chat, maybe share a joke,
Or at least I'll really try.
But my genuine friends see through the smoke,
My empty eyes cannot lie.
At home I weep, feel down in despair,
My feelings I cannot hide.
From husband, daughter, baby girl,
I'm afraid they're along for the ride.
Those waves of grief, they still hit hard,
And knock me off my feet.
I'm comforted, though, by their tender touch,
My daughters turn the bitter to sweet.
My babies now have Angel Wings,
In heaven they play and rest.
But in my heart I have their love,
And for that, I'm eternally blessed.
Yes, I'm the two-faced woman,
It's a job that I have to do.
To get on in life without my babies,
Day, week, and whole year through.
(I found this on a website it was written by Linda)
Monday, October 12, 2009
An ugly pair of shoes.....
"The mention of my child's name may bring tears to my eyes, but it never fails to bring music to my ears. If you are really my friend, let me hear the beautiful music of his name. It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul."
Verse..... "God is the father who is full of mercy and all comfort." 2 Corinthians 1:3 NCV
Thought for today.... Mourning is the only path to comfort. Bad things happen in our lives. But God will work it all out in the end.
Song/video....
Poem...
A Pair of Shoes
I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step. Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes. Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.
Verse..... "God is the father who is full of mercy and all comfort." 2 Corinthians 1:3 NCV
Thought for today.... Mourning is the only path to comfort. Bad things happen in our lives. But God will work it all out in the end.
Song/video....
Poem...
A Pair of Shoes
I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step. Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes. Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.
Saturday, October 10, 2009
After a miscarriage, Hold me now....
Verse.... "The Lord God will wipe away tears from all the faces......" Isaiah 25:8 NKJV
Thought for today..... I know of only one starting place in the war against sorrow, and that is in the arms of Almighty God. (Robert A Williams)
Song....
Poem....
After a Miscarriage: Hold Me Now
By Vicki Hollander
Hayotzer*,
One who shapes,
Who formed us out of moistened clay,
Who rolled and pinched and sculpted the world,
hold me now.
You who enable wisps of seeds to grow,
Who partnered the life which grew inside me,
shelter me.
Life was gifted.
Life removed.
Hayotzer,
shape me a place where I can weep,
and mourn the loss,
and let the blackness inside
cry.
Help me say goodbye
to the child
who was growing within me,
to the dreams I bore,
to the love I held within for that budding soul,
plucked away.
Let my voice ring,
a mother's call,
wild to the universe,
And You,
stand by me,
stand at my side,
and watch my tear fall and touch the earth.
Hear my pain and
hold me.
Hayotzer,
You who shaped me,
Heal my body and my soul.
Mend my spirit.
Thread new life among my bones.
Help me to find ground again.
To feel the earth beneath my toes.
To smell the beckoning scent of rich soil.
To see shoots of green emerge through winter beds,
determined hands grasping life.
To hear the sap rushing within.
I kneel to plant.
A seed of life.
An act of faith.
Hayotzer,
Sower of life,
Take my hand and, for a time,
hold it tight.
* Hayotzer, one of seventy names of God, is translated roughly as "One Who fashions, forms, creates."
Thought for today..... I know of only one starting place in the war against sorrow, and that is in the arms of Almighty God. (Robert A Williams)
Song....
Poem....
After a Miscarriage: Hold Me Now
By Vicki Hollander
Hayotzer*,
One who shapes,
Who formed us out of moistened clay,
Who rolled and pinched and sculpted the world,
hold me now.
You who enable wisps of seeds to grow,
Who partnered the life which grew inside me,
shelter me.
Life was gifted.
Life removed.
Hayotzer,
shape me a place where I can weep,
and mourn the loss,
and let the blackness inside
cry.
Help me say goodbye
to the child
who was growing within me,
to the dreams I bore,
to the love I held within for that budding soul,
plucked away.
Let my voice ring,
a mother's call,
wild to the universe,
And You,
stand by me,
stand at my side,
and watch my tear fall and touch the earth.
Hear my pain and
hold me.
Hayotzer,
You who shaped me,
Heal my body and my soul.
Mend my spirit.
Thread new life among my bones.
Help me to find ground again.
To feel the earth beneath my toes.
To smell the beckoning scent of rich soil.
To see shoots of green emerge through winter beds,
determined hands grasping life.
To hear the sap rushing within.
I kneel to plant.
A seed of life.
An act of faith.
Hayotzer,
Sower of life,
Take my hand and, for a time,
hold it tight.
* Hayotzer, one of seventy names of God, is translated roughly as "One Who fashions, forms, creates."
Friday, October 9, 2009
Baby Grace, my little sister
Verse...... "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Matthew 5:4 NIV
Thought for today.... God opposses the proud but gives Grace to the humble. Admit to God that you need help.
Song...
Video..... This is a clip from Fireproof, its excellent...!
Poem...
Baby Grace
So small and weak,
You could see right through her
My sisters nose
and a small rose
placed right beside her
Her head was no bigger than a plum
but the room was so full of love
so many people, so much care
it makes me wish
that I was there
I never met her
But I know
that in the end
we will all be together
so this one's for you Grace.
I love you so,
I cant wait to meet you,
when I go.
Written and copyrighted by my 13 yo daughter Mikayla
Thought for today.... God opposses the proud but gives Grace to the humble. Admit to God that you need help.
Song...
Video..... This is a clip from Fireproof, its excellent...!
Poem...
Baby Grace
So small and weak,
You could see right through her
My sisters nose
and a small rose
placed right beside her
Her head was no bigger than a plum
but the room was so full of love
so many people, so much care
it makes me wish
that I was there
I never met her
But I know
that in the end
we will all be together
so this one's for you Grace.
I love you so,
I cant wait to meet you,
when I go.
Written and copyrighted by my 13 yo daughter Mikayla
Thursday, October 8, 2009
A Lament for my baby.....
Verse..... "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" Ecclesiastes 3:17 NIV
Thought for today... Blessed are those that are at the end of their rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule in your life. (from my pastors sermon Sunday morning)
Song... (not a good video, but its an awesome song!)
Poem...
A Lament for My Baby
I never got to hear you laugh
you never saw me cry
didnt get a chance to say "Hello"
you never said "Goodbye"
I didn't think that I could feel
so sad, lost and forlorn.
I never knew God chose his Angels
before some of them were born.
Your life was short yet special
I shared it all exclusively
I felt you breathe, I felt you kick.
You were alive inside of me.
Every baby is an Angel
and every angel is divine
God needed one in heaven
He came down and took mine
And although we are not together
we're not really apart
for you'll always occupy a space
deep within my heart.
Time has begun to ease my pain
It's only some days now I cry.
When I wish I could have said "Hello"
and heard you say "Goodbye"
~Author Unknown
Think of your babies this way, it brings me comfort...
Thought for today... Blessed are those that are at the end of their rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule in your life. (from my pastors sermon Sunday morning)
Song... (not a good video, but its an awesome song!)
Poem...
A Lament for My Baby
I never got to hear you laugh
you never saw me cry
didnt get a chance to say "Hello"
you never said "Goodbye"
I didn't think that I could feel
so sad, lost and forlorn.
I never knew God chose his Angels
before some of them were born.
Your life was short yet special
I shared it all exclusively
I felt you breathe, I felt you kick.
You were alive inside of me.
Every baby is an Angel
and every angel is divine
God needed one in heaven
He came down and took mine
And although we are not together
we're not really apart
for you'll always occupy a space
deep within my heart.
Time has begun to ease my pain
It's only some days now I cry.
When I wish I could have said "Hello"
and heard you say "Goodbye"
~Author Unknown
Think of your babies this way, it brings me comfort...
Monday, October 5, 2009
Taking a couple day break from the daily inspiration posts...
I need to relax and re-examine things after my third m/c was confirmed this morning.. Im sorry but I truly need a "mental health" break.. I will be back to posting after a couple days. Thank you for understanding...
Dont cry for me daddy.....
Good morning ladies. I could use some prayers myself this morning. I had some bleeding last night and I am going to the dr this morning to find out if my cervix is open or closed. I am praying that this is not going to be my third loss in 12 months.. I would appreciate any and all prayers you can give!
Verse..... "I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand...... Fear not, I will help you." Isaiah 41:13 NKJV
Thought for today..... Grief from whatever source, is a long and painful journey. And I found its full of frightful choices. The urge to retreat into a cocoon like existence is great, and depression is slipped into so easily. The allure of escaping into busyness or pleasurable fancies also raises its ugly head. God can apply his healing balm with his very special Grace from the inside out! (Verdell Davis)
Song/video....
Poem...
Don't cry for Me Daddy
Don't cry for me Daddy,
I'm right here.
Although you can't see me
I see your tears.
I visit you often,
I go to work with you each day,
And when it's time for you
to close your eyes ,
On your pillow is where I lay.
I hold your hand &
stroke your hair,
And whisper in your ear.
If you're sad today Daddy,
Remember, I am here.
God took me home.
This we know is true.
But you'll always be My Daddy
Even though I'm not with you.
We will never be apart,
For everytime you think of me,
Please know I'm in your Heart..........
~Author Unknown
Verse..... "I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand...... Fear not, I will help you." Isaiah 41:13 NKJV
Thought for today..... Grief from whatever source, is a long and painful journey. And I found its full of frightful choices. The urge to retreat into a cocoon like existence is great, and depression is slipped into so easily. The allure of escaping into busyness or pleasurable fancies also raises its ugly head. God can apply his healing balm with his very special Grace from the inside out! (Verdell Davis)
Song/video....
Poem...
Don't cry for Me Daddy
Don't cry for me Daddy,
I'm right here.
Although you can't see me
I see your tears.
I visit you often,
I go to work with you each day,
And when it's time for you
to close your eyes ,
On your pillow is where I lay.
I hold your hand &
stroke your hair,
And whisper in your ear.
If you're sad today Daddy,
Remember, I am here.
God took me home.
This we know is true.
But you'll always be My Daddy
Even though I'm not with you.
We will never be apart,
For everytime you think of me,
Please know I'm in your Heart..........
~Author Unknown
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Little Angels...
Verse.... "Hear, O Lord, and answer me, for I am poor and needy. Guard my life, for I am devoted to you. You are my God; save your servant who trusts in you. Have mercy on me, O Lord, for I call to you all day long. Bring joy to your servant, for to you, O Lord, I lift up my soul." Psalm 86:1-4
Thought for today.... Help me to see that although I am in the wilderness it is not all briars and barrenness. (Puritan Prayer)
Song/video....
Poem....
Little Angels
When God calls little children
to dwell with Him above.
We mortals sometimes question
the wisdom of His love.
for no heartache compares with
the death of one small child,
who does so much to make our world
seem wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
the aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them
and so He takes but few,
to make the land of Heaven
more beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult
still somehow me must try.
The saddest word mankind know
will always be "Goodbye".
So when a child departs
we who are left behind,
must realize God loves children,
Angels are hard to find.
~Author Unknown
Thought for today.... Help me to see that although I am in the wilderness it is not all briars and barrenness. (Puritan Prayer)
Song/video....
Poem....
Little Angels
When God calls little children
to dwell with Him above.
We mortals sometimes question
the wisdom of His love.
for no heartache compares with
the death of one small child,
who does so much to make our world
seem wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
the aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them
and so He takes but few,
to make the land of Heaven
more beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult
still somehow me must try.
The saddest word mankind know
will always be "Goodbye".
So when a child departs
we who are left behind,
must realize God loves children,
Angels are hard to find.
~Author Unknown
Friday, October 2, 2009
What makes a mother
Good morning ladies, and welcome to my blog. I hope that you all enjoy the post today...
Verse..... "Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives and he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks the door will be opened." Matthew 7:7 NIV
Thought for today.... I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day, I had so much to accomplish that I didnt have time to pray. Problems just tumbled about me, and heavier came each task; "Why doesnt God help me?" I wondered. He answered "You didnt ask" I wanted to see joy and beauty but the day toiled on gray and bleak; I wondered why God didnt show me. He said "But you didnt seek" I tried to come into God's presence; I used all my keys at the lock. God gently and lovingly chided. "My child, you didnt knock." I woke up early this morning and paused before entering the day; I had to much to accomplish that I had to take time to pray. Author unknown.
Song/video....
Poem....
What Makes A Mother
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked, "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can he replied
With confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.
I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here
He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing Here
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear,
but My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here!"
I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow is where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
"Mommy, Please don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"
So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons there are through
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates waiting for you
So now you see
What makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
~Author Unknown
Verse..... "Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives and he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks the door will be opened." Matthew 7:7 NIV
Thought for today.... I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day, I had so much to accomplish that I didnt have time to pray. Problems just tumbled about me, and heavier came each task; "Why doesnt God help me?" I wondered. He answered "You didnt ask" I wanted to see joy and beauty but the day toiled on gray and bleak; I wondered why God didnt show me. He said "But you didnt seek" I tried to come into God's presence; I used all my keys at the lock. God gently and lovingly chided. "My child, you didnt knock." I woke up early this morning and paused before entering the day; I had to much to accomplish that I had to take time to pray. Author unknown.
Song/video....
Poem....
What Makes A Mother
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked, "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can he replied
With confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.
I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here
He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing Here
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear,
but My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here!"
I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow is where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
"Mommy, Please don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"
So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons there are through
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates waiting for you
So now you see
What makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
~Author Unknown
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Angel whispers
Verse... "Teach me your way, O Lord, and I will walk in your truth, give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever." Psalm 86:11-12
Thought for today..... When Satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future!
Song...
Video....
Poem....
Angel Whispers
Dear Mommy,
Before we said our first hello,
the time had already passed.
For when you held us in your arms,
We had gone to heaven to rest.
We felt angelic tears down our cheeks,
and watched you as you wept.
We wish we could have changed it all,
Your tears touched our souls so deep.
But Mommy when you are sad,
please be assured we know.
For death cannot take away your love,
it will only continue to grow.
Time and distance cannot erase,
a love and bond so deep.
There is no bond that can compare,
and in your heart we'll keep.
When you are feeling far away,
and missing us so much,
close your eyes and feel our wings,
there soft and gentle touch.
Or at night as you sleep,
we'll join you in a dream.
You will see us standing close to you,
and we'll be lost within our wings.
So dear Mommy ,
as you go from day to day.
Find comfort in the knowledge,
We are never that far away.
~ Author Unknown
Thought for today..... When Satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future!
Song...
Video....
Poem....
Angel Whispers
Dear Mommy,
Before we said our first hello,
the time had already passed.
For when you held us in your arms,
We had gone to heaven to rest.
We felt angelic tears down our cheeks,
and watched you as you wept.
We wish we could have changed it all,
Your tears touched our souls so deep.
But Mommy when you are sad,
please be assured we know.
For death cannot take away your love,
it will only continue to grow.
Time and distance cannot erase,
a love and bond so deep.
There is no bond that can compare,
and in your heart we'll keep.
When you are feeling far away,
and missing us so much,
close your eyes and feel our wings,
there soft and gentle touch.
Or at night as you sleep,
we'll join you in a dream.
You will see us standing close to you,
and we'll be lost within our wings.
So dear Mommy ,
as you go from day to day.
Find comfort in the knowledge,
We are never that far away.
~ Author Unknown
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