Precious little one......

If you ladies have any specific prayer requests you would like me to pray for please feel free to leave it in a comment or email me at pregnancylossprayergroup@yahoo.com.  I will try to respond to your emails as quickly as possible..   God Bless you all!

Verse....  "My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to your word."  Psalm 119:28



Thought for today...  When you do call for help, God has promised to respond: "When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you.  When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown!  When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you."    Gods power is available to you right now - its just a choice away.  All you have to do is believe and receive.


Video... 



Poem.........

Precious Little One


I`m just a precious little one who didn`t make it there.

I went straight to be with Jesus,

but I`m waiting for you here.

Many dwelling here where I live,

waited years to enter in.

Struggled through a world of sorow,

a world marred with pain and sin.

Thank you for the life you gave me,

it was brief but don`t complain.

I have all Heaven`s Glory,

suffered none of earth`s great pain.

Thank you for the name you gave me.

I`d have loved to bring it fame.

But if I`d lingered in earth`s shadows,

I would have suffered just the same.

So sweet family-don`t you sorrow.

Wipe those tears and chase the gloom.

I went straight to Jesus` arms

from my loving Mother`s womb.

~Author Unknown

"My mom is a survivor"

Good morning ladies.  Im sorry that you have all been thru a loss.  But I hope that this blog helps you find some inspiration to make it thru the rough days... 

Verse....  "5.Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. 6.He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.  7.My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge.  8.Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge." Psalm 62 NIV


Thought for today.....  I know of only one starting place in the war against sorrow, and that is in the arms of Almighty God.  (Robert A. Williams)


Song.....  This song, written and sung by Corey Robert. The song itself is actually about a friend talking to a friend about a recent miscarriage she went through and Letting her know things will always get better.



Poem....

My Mom is a Survivor


My mom is a survivor,

or so I've heard it said.

But I can hear her crying

when all others are in bed.

I watch her lay awake at night.

and go to hold her hand.

She doesn't know I'm with her

to help her understand.

But like the sands upon a beach

that never wash away...

I watch over my surviving mom

who thinks of me each day.

She wears a smile for others,

a smile of disguise.

But through Heaven's open door,

I see tears flowing from her eyes.

My mom tries to cope with my death,

to keep my memory alive.

But anyone who knows her

knows it's her way to survive.

As I watch over my surviving mom

through Heaven's open door...

I try to tell her that

Angel protect me forevermore.

I know that doesn't help her,

or ease the burdens she bears.

So if you get a chance, call to her

And show her that you care.

For no matter what she feels,

my surviving mom has a broken heart

that time won't ever heal.

~K. D'Ormeaux

The Elephant in the Room

Good morning ladies.  I hope that you all begin to find healing...

Verse(s)  This is one of my favorite passages since losing Grace.....  "1.O Lord, you have searched me and you know me. 2.You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.  3.You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. 4.Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O Lord.  5.You hem me in--behind and before; you have laid your hand upon me.  6.Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.  7.Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence?  8.If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. 9.If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, 10.even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.  11.If I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,"  12.even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.  13.For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.  14.I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15.My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16.your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."  Psalm 139


Thought for today...    Pain can be exhausting.  Feelings of sorrow, depression, grief and fear can eat away at us internally to teh point that we feel our bodies will waste away.  We lose strength.  We forfeit any sense of balance and control over our emotions.   We're reduced to groaning, powerless, grief-stricken creatures.  Emotions are very fragile things. When you're working through old hurts or new struggles, your emotions can help you deal with them in a healthy way.  Stuffing them, pretending you dont feel grief or fear wont help at all.  In fact, it will hurt you in the long run.  (Peter Wallace)


Song/video......  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pqJsBRFdrA0


Poem....

The Elephant In The Room


There`s an elephant in the room.

It is large and squatting,

so it is hard to get around it.

Yet, we squeeze by with,

"how are you" and "I`m fine..."

and a thousand other forms of trivial chatter.

we talk about everything else

except the elephant in the room.

We all know it`s there.

We are thinking about the elephant as we talk.

It is constantly on our minds.

For you see, it is a very big elephant.

But we do not talk about

the elephant in the room.

Oh, please, somebody say my child`s name

Oh, please, say it again

Oh, please, let`s talk about the elephant in the room.

For if we talk about their death,

perhaps we can talk about their life.

Can I say their name...

and not have you look away?

For if I cannot,

you are leaving me alone...

In a room...

with an elephant.

~Author Unknown

How do you love someone you never got to meet?

Good afternoon ladies.  I hope that you all enjoy today's inspiration.. 

Verse..... "Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows" Isaiah 13:4

Thought for the day....  Look up.  Lift up your head.  open your eyes and look around you.  And praise the Lord.  (Peter Wallace)

Song/video...... 


Poem...

How do you love a person


who never got to be,

or try to envision a face

you never got to see?

How do you mourn the death of one

who never got to live.

When there's nothing to feel good about

and nothing to forgive?

I love you, my little baby,

my companion of the night.

Wandering through my lonely hours,

beautiful and bright.

What does it mean to die before

you ever were born,

to live the lovely night of life

and never see the dawn?

Ah! My little baby,

you lived like anyone!

Life's a burst of joy and pain.

And then like yours, it's done.

I love you, my little baby,

just as if you'd lived for years.

No more, no less, I think of you,

the Angel of my tears.

~Author Unknown.

"Do's & Dont's for family and friends"

Good morning all..  I hope you are enjoying the daily inspiration posts.  If you have any suggestions please feel free to leave a comment.. 

Verse....  "Save me, O God, for the waters have come up to my neck."  Psalm 69:1


Thought for today.....  The reactions of grief are not like recipes, with given ingredients and certain results.  Each person mourns in a different way...  Grief is universal, at the same time it is extremely personal.  (Earl A. Grollman)

Bonus video...  This would be a great link to send to family and friends! 

Song/video.... 


Poem....

Do's Don'ts


DO Allow them to express as much grief as they are able and are willing to share with you.


DO allow them to express as much unhappiness as they are feeling and willing to share with you.


DO allow them to talk about their loss as much and as often as they want to.

DO be available. to listen, to run errands, to help with the other children, or whatever else seems needed at the time.

DO deal with the grieving individual gently and positively.


DO encourage them to be patient with themselves and not to expect too much of themselves.

DO encourage them to not impose any “shoulds” or “I should be” on themselves.

DO give special attention to the child's brothers and sisters at the funeral and in the months to come (they are often in need of attention which their parents may not be able to give).

DO let your genuine concern and caring show.

DO offer specific help such as running errands, helping complete tax or medical forms, or helping to go through their loved one’s belonging.

DO offer to be a friend.

DO recognize that grieving has no time limit and varies from individual to individual both in the way they express their grief and the time required to stabilize.

DO talk about your memories of the deceased child and the special qualities that made the child endearing.

DO tell the family how sorry you are about the child’s death and about the pain they must be feeling.

DO Acknowledge the death through visits, phone calls, sympathy cards, donations, and flowers.

DO Remember important days such as birthdays, the death anniversary, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and any other significant day, which may be difficult for the bereaved. A telephone call, visit, or card means a great deal to a bereaved parent.

DO Make specific offers to help, i.e.

i. I am going to the store. What do you need?

ii. Can I take your kids on Sunday afternoon?

i. On Thursday I will be bringing by dinner for the family.

ii. I will take your child to skating lessons on Sunday.

iii. Can I come and baby-sit tomorrow evening to give you a break.

iv. Do you want to get out tonight to talk, walk, or both.


DO Offer to take the children to schools, birthday parties, and extra-curricular programs.

DO Immediately following the loss, take charge of the household and inform family and friends of the tragedy, help answer the phone, help dress and feed the children (if applicable), and set up a meal plan.

DO Call. Call often.

DO When you call the bereaved, ask, "How are you doing today?"

DO Appreciate that your bereaved relative or friend doesn't always return phone calls right away.

DO Appreciate that nothing you say will ever make the bereaved parent sadder than the reality of what has happened to their child.

DO Talk in your natural tone of voice.

DO Remember that when you phone, even if it is to only leave a message, the bereaved feel comforted by your efforts.

DO Tell the bereaved family how much you care.

DO Remember it is usually the simple little things you say or do that mean so much.

DO Listen.

DO Continue to support bereaved parents well beyond the acute mourning period, even if it means years..

DO Congratulate the bereaved on good news while appreciating that they still carry a tremendous burden of grief.

DO Find local support through bereavement groups, church, synagogue, bereavement organizations and forward the information to the bereaved family.

DO Be sensitive that being in the presence of other children of similar age to the deceased may make the bereaved parent uncomfortable.

DO Give the bereaved time to resume the activities they participated in before their loss.

DO Know that effort of any kind is appreciated.

DO Learn how to give good hugs. The bereaved need every heartfelt hug they can get.

DO Expect your relationship with the bereaved to change. When you are bereaved, every relationship is affected in one way or another.

DO Share your own good news with the bereaved. They still want to hear it.

DO Say any of the following:

i. Call me at any time if you ever need to talk.

ii. I can't begin to imagine how you feel.

iii. I am so sorry for your loss.


DO Feed and walk the dog who has probably been forgotten about.

DO Talk to your children about the loss.

DO Talk to your children about death and the rituals surrounding death.

DO Find the right time and the right materials to broach the discussion of loss and bereavement with your children.

DO Consult with your libraries and bookstores for bereavement reading materials for children.

DO Provide your surviving children with a picture of the departed child as a cherished momento.

DO Give children the option to attend the funeral.

DO Give children the option of visiting at the cemetery.

DON’T avoid mentioning their loss or the child's name out of fear of reminding them of their pain (they haven't forgotten it!).

DON’T change the subject when they mention their dead child.

DON’T tell them what they should feel or do.

DON'T avoid the bereaved parents because you are uncomfortable (being avoided by friends adds pain to an already painful experience.)

DON'T let your friends, family or co-workers grieve alone. There is a tremendous sense of isolation and abandonment during the grief process. You can help by caring, by being there, and by being the best friend you can.

DON'T make any comments which in any way suggest that their loss was their fault.

DON’T point out that at least they have their other children (children are not interchangeable; they can not replace each other).

DON'T say "Your loved one is waiting for you over there," "God wanted him," "It was God's will," or "God knows best."

DON'T say “you can always have another child.”

DON'T say “you should be coping or feeling better by now” or anything else which may seem judgmental about their progress in grieving.

DON'T say that you know how they feel (unless you've experienced their loss yourself you probably don't know how they feel).

DON'T suggest that they should be grateful for their other children. Grief over the loss of one child does not discount the parents’ love and appreciation of their living children.

DON'T tell them not to cry. It hurts us to see them cry and makes us sad. But, by telling them not to cry, we are trying to take their grief away.

DON'T tell them what they should feel or do.

DON'T try to find something positive (e.g. a moral lesson, closer family ties, etc.) about the loss.

DON’T Allow your own fears from preventing you from offering support to the bereaved.

DON’T Fear that bringing up the dead child's name will create sadness.

DON’T Say, "If you need anything call me" because the bereaved don't always know how to call and ask for your support.

DON’T Be afraid if you make your bereaved friend or relative cry.

DON’T Think that good news (family wedding, pregnancy, job promotion, etc.) cancels out grief.

DON’T Have expectations for what bereaved parents should or should not be doing at different times in their grief.

DON’T Forget the overlooked mourners (grandparents, uncles, aunt's, close friends etc.) who need your support too.

DON’T Force bereaved people to talk about their loss. They will engage you when the time is right.

DON’T Find yourself saying any of the following:

i. It was God's will.

ii. It was meant to be.

iii. He's in a better place now.

iv. Time heals all wounds.

v. I know just how you feel.

vi. You are still young enough to have more children.

vii. Are you not over it yet?

viii. At least you have other children.

ix. Your child is in a better place.

x. It was for the best.

xi. Now you will have an angel in heaven.

xii. It could have been worse...

xiii. It's been ______ amount of time and you have to get on with your life.

DON’T Expect grieving parents to be strong and don't compliment them if they seem to be strong.

DON’T Tell a grieving parent how they should feel.

DON’T Be afraid of reminding the parents about the child. They haven't forgotten.

DON’T Be afraid to cry or laugh in front of the bereaved.

DON’T Assume that when a grieving parent is laughing, they are over anything or grieving any less.

DON’T Wait until you know the perfect thing to say. Just say whatever is in your heart or say nothing at all. Sometimes just being there is comfort enough.

DON’T Underestimate the impact of grief on children. Children understand and retain a lot more than they may show.

DON’T Think that children are too young to appreciate loss or death.

"Lullabies"

Good morning ladies...  I hope you enjoy today's post...


Verse..... "He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust; his truth shall be thy shield and buckler."  Psalm 91:4


Thought for today....  There are moments when the suffering is so deep that one can hardly talk to a person.  What a joy it is then to know that the Lord understands.  No pit is so deep that the Lord is not deeper still.  Underneath us are the everlasting arms - and the Lord understands.  (Corrie Ten Boom)


Song/video.... 


Poem...

Lullabies


Daddy please don`t look so sad,

Mommy please don`t cry.

I am in the arms of Jesus

and He sings me lullabies.

Please do not try to question God,

don`t think He is unkind.

Don`t think He sent me to you and that

He changed His mind.

You see, I am special

and I`m needed up above.

I`m the special child you gave Him,

the product of your love.

I`ll always be there with you.

So watch the sky at night.

Find the brightest star that`s gleaming.

That`s my halo`s brilliant light.

So Daddy please don`t look so sad.

Mommy please don`t cry.

I am in the arms of Jesus.

And He sings me lullabies.

~Author Unknown

"Just for today"

Good morning ladies.  I hope this morning finds you all well..  I pray that you will all find peace today..

Verse.....  "Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass."  Psalm 37:5 

Thought for today...  Think of the things you do not worry about.  Perhaps you never worry about whether you will be able to get water out of the faucet in your kitchen, or maybe you do not worry about a tree falling on your house.  Now ask yourself why you do not worry about such things.  Is it because in the case of running water, it has always been there every time you wanted it, or that a tree has never fallen on your house before?  Certainty breeds trust, doesnt it?

We can be just as certain and just as worry free about God's love and protection, and provision because he has never gone back on a single one of his promises.  He never changes.  Great is His faithfulness. (Billy Graham)


Song/video.... 



Poem...

Just For Today


Just for today, I will try to live through the next 24 hours...not expecting to get over my child's death, but learning to live with it...one day at a time

Just for today, I'll remember my child's life, not his death, and bask in the comfort of the treasured days and moments we shared.



Just for today, I will forgive all the family and friends who didn't help or comfort me the way I needed them to. They truly did not know how.



Just for today, I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my child. For they are hurting too, and perhaps we can help each other.



Just for today, I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt. For deep in my heart, I know if there was anything in this world I could have done to save my child from death, I would have done it.



Just for today, I will honor my child's memory by doing something with another child, be it my own, or someone else's, because I know that would make my child proud.



Just for today, I will offer my hand in friendship to other bereaved parents, fo I DO know how they feel.



Just for today, I will smile...no matter how much I hurt on the inside...for maybe if I smile a little, my heart will soften and I will begin to heal.



Just for today, I will allow myself to be happy and enjoy myself, for I know I am not deserting my child by moving on.



Just for today, I will accept that I did NOT die when my child did. My life did go on and I am the ONLY one who can make that life worthwhile again.

My heavenly angel, my guiding light

Good morning ladies.  I hope this morning finds you all well...  I pray that you all find peace today..  May God Bless everyone of you reading this!


Verse    For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Luke 12:13


Thought for today  What happens to good people when bad things happen to them?  They become better people.  Robert Schuller


Song/video


Poem (quotes for today instead)

"Now I lay you down to sleep,


I pray the Lord your soul to keep;

Within his arms he'll hold you tight,

My Heavenly Angel, My Guiding Light"
 
 
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap and tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap and tell them about me?"



The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched, but are felt in the heart. *Helen Keller*




"Some say you are too painful to remember, I say you are too PRECIOUS to forget!"




"The mention of my child's name may bring tears to my eyes, but it never fails to bring music to my ears. If you are really my friend, let me hear the beautiful music of his name. It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul


"An angel in the book of life wrote down my baby's birth.


Then whispered as she closed the book "too beautiful for earth".

~author unknown

I am always with you

Good morning ladies. I hope that you all find peace and comfort today...

Verse... Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me. Revelation 3:20 NIV

Thought for the day... God stands at the door of your heart and knocks. He will not break down the door, he waits for you to invite him in.


Song/video.... This is an amazing song & video for the day. I hope you all enjoy. I couldnt embed the image from you tube. But here is a link...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ff5qJrPT7k

Poem

I am always with you

Why did you have to go away and leave your mommy so sad and blue?
I'm right here mommy with you always, I thought you already knew.

How come I can't see you or hold you close to me?
You do see me mommy, you just have to open your eyes and there I'll be.

I'm the sunrise in the morning and the sunset @ night.
I'm that star you see in the sky shinning o' so bright.

I'm that flower in your yard that bloomed the other day.
I'm the beautiful butterfly you stopped and watch play.

I'm that soft whisper you hear when no one's around.
I'm the warmth that heals your heart just when you begin to frown.

I'm the colorful rainbow you sometimes see right after a storm.
I'm always near you mommy, I just take many different forms.

I'm in each smile you make and kiss you give away.
I'm apart of you mommy, in every thought and word you say.

I see the tears you cry for me and hear you pray.
I wipe them away with my kisses and help you make it through the day.

We will forever be together this I know for sure.
God sent me to be with you in all that you will endure.

Mommy I wish you could see my magical set of wings.
Exquisite soft white feathers made from all of God's loving things.

I wrap them around you brining comfort and healing.
As i engulf you let go all the pain your heart is feeling.

We meet in your dreams holding hand in hand.
We walk down beaches dragging our feet in the sand.

You also have some friends up here that love you so.
They watch over you where ever you may go.

So when your feeling sad and blue and think I'm not right here.
Just look around at all the beautiful things and know I am near.

~Author~
Shannon

Baby angel's due date

Good morning ladies.. I hope you all enjoy today's post...

Verse "God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16

Thought for today Nobody ever said it would be easy.

Song/video

Poem

Baby Angel's Due date

Today a tear falls.
They start to fall like rain.
My heart feels broken.
Forever there will be pain.

There is a cloud in my life now.
Even on sunny days.
An emptiness, a longing,
A sadness that forever stays.

A sadness that is lonely.
A silent tear sneaks out.
My voice fails to scream,
What my heart wants to shout.

Unborn babies are precious.
Their brief moments with us mattered.
We feel love from the beginning.
Love continues after our hearts were shattered.

Today I should have had my baby.
A Baby Angel to love and touch.
But instead I have barely a reminder
Of one I love so much.

No one in my family
Has cried a single tear.
They move on with their lives
Unaware of my pain and fear.

Sometimes I can peek beyond the clouds
To feel a little joy.
I feel the hope of a future
That includes a baby girl or boy.

But what if it never happens.
That's more than I can bear.
So I pray and try again.
I can't handle more despair.

Today's tears keep falling.
They rain and then they pour.
My babies may never be in my arms,
But they're in my heart forevermore.

Written by: Lesley Parker

Fingerprints

Good morning ladies. Im so glad that God put this idea on my heart to still be able to do daily inspiration without causing anyone pain with a ticker... I hope that you all enjoy this new blog...

Verse"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer, and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." Phillipians 4:6

Thought of the day God never promised there wouldnt be storms in your life, only that he would comfort you during those times.. People think that being a christian means that nothing bad ever happens to you. That is not true. Bad things will happen, but we know that we have someone to lean on during those times!

Song/video

Poem

Fingerprints by Tom Krause

Your fingerprints are on my heart.
Even though I never held your hand - you touched me.

Even though I never heard you speak -
you taught me.

You taught me about love.

You taught me about caring.

You taught me about courage.

You taught me about faith.

You taught me about happiness.

You taught me about sorrow

You brought me closer to my loved ones.

You brought me closer to myself.

In the time I care for you,
my how life changed.
Never to be the same again.

Because of you
I know I will somehow be stronger.

Because of you
I know I will be more prepared for life.

All this from tiny fingerprints
that touched my heart.

Because of this
you will live forever in my soul -
never to be forgotten.

I will always love you.

You are my child.